Soul Food

Some people seem to have this life thing all figured out but for most of us, it can get crazy sometimes.

We need to be reminded what this whole life thing is about.

We need guidance on what routes to take in this journey.

We need the shelter of peace in order to rest and gather more strength to walk on.

We need kind words to root out the painful ones.

We need the balm of love to bring healing to the cracks on our souls.

We need to know we matter somewhere, somehow. To know that something is better because we are around.

To know we have something worth fighting for. That we are worth fighting for.

To know purpose. To know guidance. To know peace. To know kindness. To know love. To know we matter.

To know we are not alone.

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John 14:18

β€œI will not leave you as orphans; I will come to you.”

Love,

Ndanu

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Flowers and Comfort

Today I will do both jewellery and dress infor πŸ™‚

I have a friend who is a genius! She is studying veterinary medicine and making jewellery at the same time. Her jewellery line is called Kihuruta. She made these earring for me and they gave such an amazing edge to my look. I look exotic!! Lol!

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Her name is Mukami. She delivers the jewellery to an agreed location and her number isΒ 0720792327. You can also follow this link to her facebook page for pictures of her latest designsΒ  https://www.facebook.com/Kihuruta.designs

The dress was another simple one. I am into short dresses now πŸ™‚ Knee length is my idea of short because maxi is usually my norm πŸ˜€ The design was mine and the fabric too had remained from a maxi skirt i posted a few weeks ago.

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Fabric – Bought it at Nairobi Textiles for 1800 bob.

Fundi – My usual favorite Esther. She is located next to Equity Donholm and her number is 0731 114371. She charged me 1800 for the dress.

She took 2 weeks to do 2 dresses and I simply looooved this dress! It is so simple and I feel like I can run or even fly in it because of the perfect fit. No uncomfortable cleavage or heavy material hanging anywhere πŸ˜€

All the best as you call up either Mukami or Esther to glam you up!

Love,

Ndanu

The Orange Dress

Hello Ladies,

I wore this dress about 2 weeks ago to a friend’s wedding. I have realized that I go out of my way to dress up for my friend’s weddings. Most girls do. It’s a sort of show of love πŸ™‚ We will go all out if the people are close to us. This friend was one of those.

I got the fabric from Rwanda last year and kept it until this special occasion.

It is a very simple design…actually the nice fabric is what made it stand out….and maybe the low back.. I wanted something simple I could wear anywhere even to church πŸ™‚

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Fundi – Esther

Location – Equity Donholm

Cost – Ksh. 1,800

Contact – 0731114371

Overal Feeling – She is one of my favorite fundis. I was happy with her job though I felt like the dress made me look too small. That’s why I added the belt…. Otherwise I love the dress! πŸ™‚

All the best ladies!

Love,

Ndanu

So close yet so far

Girls!!!! You know I love you and I tell it as it is. Truth is hard but if we allow it to penetrate our hearts then we get closer to healing and who doesn’t want to be whole? πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

You meet this guy and he seems just great! He calls you one day and the conversation goes well. He does not ask you out for a date like you dreamed but he is sweet and has good manners. If you are a God girl like me, you are also impressed by just how he adores God. You become friends and talk once in a while. It is not often enough to be sure that something is growing but also not rare enough to be sure that it is nothing!! Hahaha! So close yet so very far! Intangible!The craziness of the single life!! πŸ˜€

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I have learned that the above is ok and normal but the trouble starts here… You are really ready for a relationship so you are always thinking ahead. You are already praying about what God thinks of him, you are already wondering if it could work and if you are super fast, you are already thinking what kind of dad he would make!! LOL!! Girls you know it’s true! The problem with allowing your thoughts to go this far is that you set yourself up for hurt. You grow fond of him even before you are sure he likes you back. You start to whatsapp him with every thought and juicy detail of your day. Soon he is the first person you talk to in the morning and the last one at night. Remember though that he has not made anything clear. He has not told you if he feels anything for you.

Truth is I do not understand why the guys reply and keep you engaged in conversations if they feel nothing for you but bottom line is they do. Maybe they are just a really polite gender!! lol!! I teach my baby brother and my close male friends not to do that but the problem persists with most other guys. I know guys are also reading this so please guys, girls just love conversation. It might be a universal love language for all females. To call often and ask them how they are doing, to chat often on whatsapp and any other constant communication sends a signal to them that you might not be necessarily intending. So please stop!! I know it sounds drastic but please stop! Call, chat and give attention to the girl you see a future with. Pursue her intentionally and avoid all these misunderstandings…. Believe me, one day you will be dealing with a guy doing this to your daughter and it won’t be pretty!

Back to my girls, we cannot really control what guys do but we can take control of our own lives and hearts. Guard your heart. Have some dignity. Love yourself. Let him look for you. Let him chase, they actually do enjoy it. Let him be the man. Do not pour your whole heart out to him even before he tells you what he wants. Do not be one of the many girls he chats the whole day with.Β  Do not allow yourself to get carried away in your thoughts. My sister and I have this rule, ‘He does not like you until he says it’. Believe me, it is a good rule! No guessing! It has saved me from a lot of unnecessary heart ache. This post was birthed this morning when I woke up with this urge to narrate a story to my “so close yet so far” but I have managed not to. I will not. Guy got to earn my stories πŸ˜€ Guy got to truly want my stories. Guy got to set the ball rolling. I will call up my girlfriend and share my story much as it’s not the same! It will do for now! πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

Strong, girls!! Strong!!

Love,

Ndanu.

Masks Off!

You feel like you are not worth anything because no good man is chasing after you. 30 years and counting and still no signs of a man to marry you.
You settled for the first guy who looked in your direction despite his straying eye and the fishy texts in his phone.
You were dumped after putting so much into that relationship. He dumped you just like that!
You got a baby with a loser who wants nothing to do with you. And baby has his eyes, always looking up at you reminding you how stupid you felt for falling for his lies!!
You were raped on your way home from work or by that man friend when you visited his house.
You gained so much weight after baby came and you hate how you look. He makes it worse by refusing to touch you for more than a year now.
Your boyfriend beats you up but you are afraid if you leave him you will die alone. ‘Where will I get another man?’ You ask yourself…
You just found out you are pregnant with baby number 2 or 3. Different men. They all promised to love you forever but forever has a new -3 month- meaning.
You need something to fill that void inside you. That empty feeling deep inside. You have tried men but even their penises can’t get that deep. You have tried alcohol and the party life but the hollowness goes deeper still.
You crave admiration and approval.
You have tried to dress up….shorter, tighter, show-ier….You have tried to cook your best. You have tried to be the best sex giver.Nothing seems to keep them men or satisfy you.
You laugh loud, give high fives and look like the happiest girl in the world. However you cry yourself to sleep alone at night. You are broken. You weep gently after the new boyfriend ,who is someone’s husband, falls asleep immediately after sexing you rough and quick!
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So much pain in ladies all over the world!! I sat on the floor of my house and wept so much tonight. My heart and prayers go out to all hurting, lost and messed up ladies tonight! Life can be cruel and yes you have made bad decisions but that is not the end of the story! I know it sounds clichΓ© but your only solution is Jesus. He knows everything about you but He still wants you. He will fill that void inside you. He will teach you how valuable you are. God is your father. He wil heal you and make you whole. He will give you joy and a reason to live! He does not hate you!! He loves you and eagerly waits for you to come to Him every passing day! Please come to Him!!!

You are very valuable!!

Love,
Ndanu.

Tender Loving Care

For most couples, the first year is about them right? Now these two people are doing both: focusing on their new love and focusing on their family and friends too. Mr and Mrs Brother Love!Β  :-*

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Anyone who know me knows that I am a tough cookie. I have learnt to take care of myself and take care of everyone else. My brother and his wife though seem to be on a mission to love on me. I am so amazed by the deliberate love they show me. I did not realize how good it feels to be taken care of for a change! It’s for tears!!! πŸ™‚

They are going out of their way so many times for me. They took me out for pizza the night before my birthday, they drove to South B to help me transport cake stuff back to my house after THE wedding cake job, they drove all the way to my mum’s to get the sewing machine with me and drove me all the way to my house made sure it was set up before driving back to their house!! Ah! Sweeeeet! They walked me home yesterday night after I had visited their home. As we walked they carried everything for me such that I was walking empty handed like a boss!!

I know these things seem very small but they mean the world to me. Plus I have not even had to ask for any of these favors! πŸ™‚ I am super grateful!

Mrs Brother keeps telling me to learn to let other people help me and not be soooo ‘independent’!! That is a story for another day! Lol!!

To reaching out with love to other people this new year! To being dependable! That is what life is about!! :-*

Love,
Ndanu.