I have been battling serious writer’s block the past few weeks but I have to overcome it. Otherwise I am going to burst with words that remain unwritten….
I have been thinking about what ‘loving oneself’ really means. I remember knowing what it was not but not really being sure of what it was. An example is a friend of mine who really thought she loved herself however her actions pointed to an exact opposite. She dressed impeccably and spent a lot of money on herself but some habits she had left me asking myself what love really was…. She loves soda and would drink like 2 liters of Sprite every single day. She gained a lot of weight in a span of just a year and as much as it pained me, I did not know what exactly was wrong until a few weeks ago. I am not saying that weight gain in itself is bad but too much soda is literally DEADLY!! 😦 We discovered this wholistic love concept together during a heart to heart….
You see, the same way loving another person requires work, commitment and ‘tough love’, the same applies to loving ourselves. If we applied this concept, we would discover that most of us loathe (i dare say) ourselves. I cannot eat fries everyday and say I love myself. I cannot spend money on unnecessary things so much so that I save nothing and say that I love myself. I cannot drink crazy and drive and say that I love myself. I cannot stay with that abusive boyfriend and say that I love myself. I cannot always get back with that cheating partner and say that I love myself. I cannot continue messing my heart and mind with porn and insist that I love myself….
When we truly love someone, we do all we can to tell them the truth and always work for their good whether they like it or not. Love does not always feel nice but it is always working for good. ….love does not envy, does not boast, is not proud, it is not self seeking, keeps no record of wrong…. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres…. The same applies to loving yourself.
May we gain a heart of wisdom in this matter and always make sure that we do and say only that which builds us and not destroy us. It is fundamental for us if we are to love others truly and even teach our children what it truly means to love themselves.
On that note, i need to start that morning jog or zumba classes. I have not exercised in over 2 years /o\….
Here is to a whole generation! 🙂 🙂 🙂